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Let me know if any of my non-American friends in the chat have experienced this, but from my experience when I’ve been in places like France, the servers get the job done but they’re not particularly friendly or rude. They just do the job they’re there to do, coming to the table to ask what you want, bringing it to you and then leaving you alone. If you want something else, you have to go and ask for it. I’m trying to get to the point where I’m just friendly as a baseline. If a server isn’t friendly back to me, I try to think to myself that they might be having the worst shift of their life, or they might have had a really bad day and they’re just trying to get through it.